Difficult

The girl was a straight A student and graduated top of her class. Physically beautiful. But it has become obvious she is really not well-adjusted. They knew as early as middle school that something was not right, but she was not emotionally available for therapy when they tried to send her. Now they can't get her even physically to go. And she won't take her meds. The whole family is being held hostage to her storms, now that she's home from school, and she worries. Worries that she's going to do something stupid like jump in front of a train. Worse, snap and harm someone.

Last night when the cops showed up at their house, she thought she was going to throw up. What had her daughter done? After all, she had been brought to the hospital by police before, for self harm after hubby had called the school on a tip. It turns out, just hit a parked car. But she also saw how she lied to the cops' face.

Am I going to worry about this my whole life? That she's going to snap? And my other kids, they hold things in and the other cries and is scared. We are all scared, I had to lock up my wallet and keys and phone. Hubby says we can't continue living like this, but what choice do we have? It's not like we have money to rent her an apartment somewhere. Or have enough evidence to commit her. And what if she never gets it together and can't ever move out? I'm sorry to say she is poisoning our home.

My mom was only one person of the 5 of us, and she had all of us on eggshells. Always. Unfortunately, I could not give her hope that it will get better. Unless someone is able to take responsibility for their own actions and seek and accept help on their own volition, there really is little hope. Instead you learn to cope, accept, and emotionally distance. It's the sad truth.